It’s Not Your Fault You’re Fucked Up

What negative things have you become aware of that were passed down to you?

For me was generational trauma, and the belief that it’s better to stay where I am in life than to go for what I believe will bring me a more fulfilling life. To care about what others will think.

“It’s not your fault if you’re fucked up. It’s your fault if you stay fucked up. The foundation of your fuckedupness is something that’s been passed down through generations of your family, like a coat of arms or a killer cornbread recipe.” -Jen Sincero

When you were a baby you had no idea what or who you were. You were innocent and present to the world around you. There were no insecurities or beliefs about how to behave in life.

As you started to get older you started to get molded with a lifetime’s worth of beliefs. Many of them not being necessarily true or which don’t apply who you know you want to be in life.

For example, the world is a very dangerous place, money is evil, or molded by experiences put upon you like always worrying what people might think because that’s what your parents always did or judging you when you did something outside “their” box.

Maybe your parents weren’t all that bad and for the most part, you know in your heart that they meant well and they did the best they could.

You were acting based on instinct and habit but there was always a little itch you couldn’t scratch. But something in you woke up. You woke up from an illusion. An illusion based on someone’s else beliefs. Be it your parents, TV, friends, environment, school, and so on.

You know you want and need a change. You want to mold yourself into what you know you can be, into what will make life more fulfilling and bearable when things get hard.

Life will always have ups and downs and we’re meant to experience all feelings in life but you want to know that all these experiences and feelings are because of your own creation and not somebody else’s.