Go For The Thing That Scares You But You Know You Want

When you feel you’re not good enough or not ready what you’re saying is that you’re too chicken to try it and not that you can’t do it.

If what you want is truly a necessity for you, you will make it happen.

Decide. Just decide that this is what you want and will not give up. Make a decision right now. Please write it down so that this is truly what you are and want. Make it a lifetime plan, not a six-month or one-year commitment. Yes, you can chunk it into small goals and achieve your goal faster than you might think but be real with yourself. There is still much you must work on that’s part of your journey to get to the version of who you want to be. That’s the fun part. Because when you achieve your goal there will be more you will want after. Enjoy that journey now and just decide.

Put yourself in situations where you have to take action. When what you want becomes a must, you’ll figure it out. You make it happen.

In my early twenties, I did everything I could to make my parents proud and I wanted all of us to be successful. Nothing changed and it was still a toxic environment. Walking out one night with no notice and staying in my car for a few days was the best decision I could have taken.

This made me learn and grow. It made me realize that to better help those around me I have to look out for myself first. I had to find a new job, and a new place to live, and I had to get creative. I reached out to friends I hadn’t talked to before. My parents are not together anymore and my brothers become my responsibility for a few years. My parents did the best they could but that experience taught me a lot.

Your decision might not have to be that drastic but maybe it should. Get those plane tickets, set boundaries, quit that job, or make those phone calls to start your business. Take the step or you will regret it.

Procrastination is self-sabotage, not lack of discipline.

Where do you self-sabotage?

Discipline people are just highly motivated people. Willpower and discipline should be the last resort. What is it that’s holding you back? When you procrastinate how does it start? Is it that you have a TV in every room? Do you have all entertainment subscriptions? Do you have undiagnosed ADHD? Do you not rest well enough or eat clean? Maybe you take on too much and can’t focus on what you actually want.

Figure out what is holding you back. While you eliminate all of these distractions, set boundaries or delegate them start now. The most simple way to start is to only do it for 10 minutes every day. Thats all! No matter what it is that you want to achieve. Set a timer and only do it for 10 minutes.

Experiencing life, and taking action is better than perfectionism

Perfectionism is another form of procrastination and self-sabotage. It’s a lack of clarity, but more than anything it’s FEAR.

Fear of what? Not experiencing the life you desire?

What is it that you want? Why does it have to be so serious and difficult? Who told you it had to be so serious and difficult?

All of your actions have taken you to where you are now. Appreciate it yes! But, you know you want more! You got yourself in debt. You’re deciding not to apply for that job. You’re creating a life of fear, regret, and stress, mind as well go for the life you desire. You’re the one not doing 10 minutes of exercise every day. Yes, it’s you!

Anything no matter how small feels and is way better than looking back at your life with regret.

Play the game, laugh it out, own it, and work with it because fuck it

You’re where you are right now! So what? It sucks. Go for what you want. Play the game. Aim to mess up. Take some risks. Don’t aim for your goal. Just go out there because you want to fail.

I owned it when I started learning English and had to give presentations in high school. I would announce first that there were words I still couldn’t pronounce. That if there were any questions to just ask and would try to answer. (Not in so many words).

This helped me get rid of any expectations. I made it funny if I could. I would laugh about it and just do it. I would ask to go first to get it over with. I aimed for failure and would go back to my seat feeling proud and happy that it was over.

My other option was to hide or not do my work. To sit in shame and be looked at by everyone when it was my turn and say I didn’t do my work.

I learned to fail, enjoy it, and get it over with. Anything was better than nothing. I did it and there was no regret or shame.

it’s what I do now that I’m older. Anything is better than nothing. At least I can say that I did it. And if I want to I can go back and try again I can.

You! Yes, you stop being a chicken and just do it for 10 minutes every day. You’ll realize that you can do much more for much longer than you originally thought. If you laugh at the idea that 10 minutes won’t make a difference prove me wrong. How much time have you allocated to your dreams?

It’s your time! See you on the other side!