I’M-Possible, The Biggest Disability Is Your Mindset

Be the POSSIBLE in IM! The more you level up the more you realize that almost everything is a choice and a want, not a need. It is your choice to be proactive or reactive in life.

When something in life is a need it will naturally happen, when it is a want it usually is because an outside force is interfering with the natural laws of life. It is why the more you try to force something to happen the harder it is to obtain it. When you decide to Be as if it is already yours and move a step at a time with the flow, the effort and focus you put into yourself start to show results.

You don’t think about breathing it just happens. Breathing is something you “Need” to do to survive. But, it’s only a need until you “Need” it. This is when it becomes a “Want”. If you’re drowning you want to breathe because you want to survive. Before that, you were just being. You learn to center yourself when you learn to swim and to hold your breath. You learn to be proactive and not reactive. Now you’re in charge of the outcome. You don’t need to breathe or want to breathe. Breathing will naturally happen when you’re ready. You’ve learned to control the outcome by focusing on what you can control now.

By being proactive and not reactive, by focusing on the inner you, you’ve become a new person.

By working within and not letting outside circumstances mess with your inner force, you have decided to BE the change now and not the IF ONLY’s.

Be the Be’s and not the If Only’s

We’re always in a state of preparation—slaves to perpetual preparation The purpose of work is not to work, it’s a tool to create the life you want. We tend to forget and we make work the purpose. We enter a state of chronic anxiety, of always trying to catch up and to reach for future happiness.

We enter a state of wishing instead of creating.

• “If only I had…”
• “I’ll be happy when I’ve paid off the house…”
• “If only my wife was more understanding…”
• “If only I had gone to the University…”
• “If only I could have more time for myself…”
• If only the economy were better…”

The problem isn’t out there. What you can influence is what you can BE now. As soon as you think the problem is out there, that way of thinking is the problem.

You decide if you can fix the problem or if you can’t. You can BE more patient, a better communicator, go back to school, or start reading more, and you can create the time for what matters to you the most.

The result might not be the most desirable even if you work within you but now you’ve learned more. You become acceptant of what you can’t control. What you thought you wanted might not be the case anymore. You’ve become someone with a higher vibration who gets more out of life. A new you who gets to be whatever makes your life more fulfilling.

To better influence outside forces, always start from within. BE and stop bitching about the Have or have not.

The best thing you have is YOU and only you decide what you get out of YOU. You now start asking How?

It’s not Can or can’t. It’s How?

• “I can never find a good partner.”
• “I can’t get the job I want.”
• “Can I even afford a better car?”
• “Can I even afford my dream vacation?”

OR

How do you become the person who gets what you want?

• “How can I find a good partner?”
• “How do I become the person who gets the partner I see myself with?”
• “How can I get the job I want?”
• “How can I afford a better car?”
• “How can I afford my dream vacation?”

When you start playing the victim card you’re saying that you get more satisfaction from complaining than from the actual thing you say you want. A constant cycle of self-sabotage; always looking for evidence to prove yourself right. It’s a true sign of procrastination and fear of confronting the inner you that’s afraid of change. The you who is comfortable in your current state of avoidance.

Change happens when staying where you are becomes more painful than striving for the life you truly want.

You make a conscious decision to become proactive instead of reactive.

You’re Either Proactive or Reactive

If you let outside circumstances dictate your path, you will always be reacting to life instead of creating it.

Being reactive means blaming, waiting, and hesitating. It’s living on autopilot, letting emotions, circumstances, and others decide for you. You wake up feeling stuck like life is happening to you instead of because of you.

Being proactive, on the other hand, means taking responsibility. It means recognizing that you have the power to shift your mindset, to take small steps that align with your goals, and to stop making excuses. Life doesn’t owe you anything, but you owe it to yourself to step up.

You’re either in control or being controlled. You’re either acting or being acted upon.

What do you choose?

Do you live your life defined by your social mirror (outside forces)?

If the only view of ourselves is a distorted view put on you, you become distorted in every other part of your life. You don’t know who you are, what you want, and where you’re going. Always feeling a sense of fulfillment. You then get old, start looking back, and start feeling regret for not living the life you know you could have been brave enough to live.

• “You’re always late.”
• “You eat like a pig!”
• “You must be so smart”
• “You’re so lucky all of the time!”
• “Why are you always so messy?”
• “Why can’t you understand it, it’s so simple?”
• “Why are you so lazy?”

Look into your environment and decide if it’s the life you want to live or the life that is being put onto you. The way you grew up, and the habits that were put into you are no longer your excuse.

It’s time to take ownership of YOU.

The Power of Ownership

Ownership is the foundation of transformation. The moment you take full responsibility for your life is the moment everything changes. No more blaming, no more wishing—only action.

This means owning your thoughts, your habits, your finances, your relationships, your health, your happiness. You stop waiting for permission, stop waiting for the “right time,” and instead, you create the time.

Taking ownership means accepting that your past doesn’t define you, but your present choices do. You can’t go back and change what happened, but you can decide what happens next.

So, where do you start? You start with you. You start with what’s in your control. You start with a decision:

Do I continue being the person who reacts, or do I become the person who acts?

It’s your decision and only yours if you decide to quit