Unfuck Yourself One Marginal Game at A Time
Do you ever ask yourself “What the fuck is wrong with me?” Or “What the fuck is my problem?” Or “Is this all I am meant for?”
You work so hard, you push and push and you just can’t seem to get out of your own way. You don’t see results, you have no focus or discipline.
You sometimes feel like you finally have the perfect plan but after an hour or maybe even days all that planning and motivation suddenly just disappears and you have no idea what the heck happened. You have to start all over again in search of that clarity and motivation. It is as if someone hit you in the head and again you have no idea what you’re supposed to do in life.
We’re not meant to have a perfect roadmap to life. That is not the goal. The goal is to simply play the game. The game or where you find yourself now and what is your current desire or game you want to play.
Whether it is to get in shape, save $10,000, start your own business, or to travel to Japan.
You look at people’s social media stories and they seem to be having awesome experiences. You wonder how they do it and you compare your life to theirs. You probably think that its because they have access to resources you don’t have or a better support system.
Often that might be true, but your mind doesn’t allow you to see past your scarcity mindset.
It’s not about what you want or don’t want, have or don’t have, it’s about what game do you want to play next.
My answer to clarity and overcoming these types of negative perspectives is usually to declutter my whole environment. Except for close loved ones, but do set boundaries and in rare cases cut them off completely even for a while might be best. I will usually clean my home, and get rid of as many things that are taking much of my time and energy and that bring no or little happiness or fulfillment. I cancel any memberships that are taking my time and money. I cancel any plans and events. It’s not about limiting myself. It’s about letting my mind find what my real and true desires in life are.
This usually gives me better clarity of what my goals and aspirations are and what I’m putting off for the future.
You don’t have to do as I do. When I am clear on what it is that I want to do I don’t have to declutter my whole environment. What you should do if you’re clear on what your goals are is to move one marginal adjustment at a time.
Once you choose one goal, let everything around you be. You will figure out a way around your obstacles or through them by decluttering, compromising, eliminating them, and by only focusing on one goal.
Don’t complicate your goal or eventually, it’ll seem too hard to want to take action. Perfectionism will kick in (another form of procrastination). Shiny object syndrome will kick in. And suddenly you won’t know what happened with all that clarity and motivation you had.
If your goal is to get in shape, don’t commit to going to the gym for 2 hours every day. Instead, commit to working out for 10min no matter what every day for 30 days. After 30 days, you can increase the time and difficulty. It’s about making it a habit and gaining momentum.
The results from this strategy are bigger for your morale, mentality, and physical, compared to going to the gym twice for 2 hours and never going back again.
Don’t rush your goal. Take on one goal at a time. You will achieve life fulfillment faster and have more experiences this way.
Your greatness is in every small step you take towards something that makes you happy or fulfilled. The more progress you make (don’t focus on the progress but on each marginal step. You will see the progress.), the more games you choose to play, the more fulfilled with life you will be. You will no longer focus on others but instead on what you’re creating for yourself.
